If you’re like me, you may have heard a thousand times that “time heals all wounds.” But when it comes to moving on after a breakup, it rarely feels that simple. The pain, confusion, and sense of loss can stick around much longer than anyone expects—and sometimes, it’s difficult to even pinpoint why.

Sometimes I find myself replaying old conversations over and over, wondering what I could have done differently. Other days, there’s a rush of anger that catches me off guard—at my ex, at myself, or at the whole situation. Even when I start to feel okay again, there may be moments of doubt or sadness, making me question if I’ll ever truly move on.

Part of the challenge is that breakups aren’t just the end of a relationship—they’re the end of little routines, inside jokes, and shared plans. It’s completely normal to feel lost, to grieve not only for the person but also for the future I imagined. It’s easy to think I should “just get over it,” but in reality, healing takes time and self-compassion.

I’ve learned that there’s nothing wrong with feeling a little stuck. Acknowledging the pain is the first step to working through it. Sometimes it helps to talk with friends, write down what I’m feeling, or give myself permission to miss what I had. Most importantly, I’ve realized that my journey is mine alone—there are no shortcuts, no timelines, and no “right way” to move forward.

If you’re struggling to move on, know that you’re far from alone. It’s okay to take your time, feel what you need to feel, and allow yourself space to heal. Even on the toughest days, little by little, you can rediscover your own strength and hope for what’s ahead.